Monday, August 9, 2010

Man of Many Names: Except for the One that Really Counts




I’ve been known as the boy next door, best friend forever when you need a shoulder to cry on, reassurance man when you wanted to hear “yes, we guys are dumb”, the comfort guy at the dance club when you didn’t want to dance with strangers, the hair holder guy at the end of the night (I hate holding hair btw), the human shield blocking you so you can pee in public and the supporter holding you up so your drunken queen can pee in a tub because the toilet was broken. Can’t you come over just to cuddle guy because boyfriend / girlfriend broke up with you, had a fight with family members or just because you were lonely. The latest title I’ve encountered is FBF (fake boyfriend); you love having the male attention, enjoyed me taking you out and paying for everything however do not want to be in a relationship or is it just a relationship with me?

I could continue with the list of ‘a.k.a’s and alias but the reality of it is this: “I just do not want to be known as just these.” I’m not writing this stating I want to get married right now; I’m saying I want to be given a chance. I want the same chance you gave the ‘bad boy you wanted to “change,” Mr. Wrong that treated you crap and ‘Mr. Not Right Now’ who only wanted to a relationship with you between the hours or midnight and 4am.

Stop trying to convince me “it’s you, not me. Deep down inside, I know it’s me. It’s my fault for having a sweet mother for raising me to be a man and not a boy. It’s my fault for never wanting to treat a woman the same way I saw my mother treated while I was growing up. Maybe my flaw is not “moving in for the kill” quick enough. But as one of my friends put it in her blog today “I enjoy stages.” I wonder if it “enjoying stages” has backfired in my face though.

Though I enjoy knowing that I could pick up the phone and find someone to hangout with me pretty much whenever, it would be nice to only have to call one number and know the women on the other end calls me boyfriend.

4 comments:

Beth said...

Wow. Just Wow. This is exactly who I am looking for.... wanna move to Wisconsin? I know a GREAT girl!

Carly said...

Awww, this post made me sad for you. Man, I wish you lived near me so I could introduce you to a few ladies/ ;) I never could understand all these girls that always pick the totally wrong guys. Like you said the bad boy, the late night only guys and so on and so on. Why don't they want the nice guys that will treat them right. So weird! I think it just takes some girls awhile to realize that the hot bad boy is pretty much just that and not a long term thing. Hang in there and hopefully you'll meet the right girl sooner than later. And I'd be willing to bet that when you do meet her, some of those other girls that weren't ever interested in you in a boyfriend way will be sorry they missed their chance. :)
Carly

SSW said...

Wow a man who knows what he wants! Awesome! Love the post and wished more men knew what they wanted! Any woman would be lucky to call you her boyfriend with a mindset like yours! Come on over and get to know me!

Megan said...

Wow, it was refreshing to read about a guy who knows what he wants. it's also nice to know that there are guys out there who aren't looking for a one night dealio...